5 Tips For Managing Stress During The Upcoming Wedding Season
Wedding season is on the horizon. We have newly engaged wedding couples from Christmas and Valentine’s Day. As planners, we all would love to increase our clientele, as well as, to gain more experience, earn more revenue, and showcase our talents and collaborative efforts. However, this is also a season that instead of dealing with Bridezillas, we can actually become a Wedding Planzillas. Why? This is all due to stress and trying to manage our work/life balance, or the lack of it. Below are 6 tips that can help aide you to surviving the upcoming wedding season.
Prioritize and Establish Boundaries-In a world where we wear many hats, we have to prioritize all of our daily tasks. If we don’t learn how to do so, we can get easily overwhelmed from our day to day tasks and functions. We are not robots and should not place undue pressure on ourselves to be excellent and excel in all areas. Now don’t get me wrong. We can be great at many things. However, items or tasks should be prioritized based on if they are time sensitive or if not responding to it at all produces a negative ripple effect.
Separate Work and Family-Try your best to not blend work and family. I now this can be hard as sometimes the lines can get blurred. However, this is a must! Sometimes this can be especially difficult for those that work from home. Those that do, have a harder time because they are in the same physical environment for work and family. Put yourself on a strict time schedule for work related duties and family time. You can even determine a physical space that is strictly for work and then back to the rest of the house for family related matters.
Take a Mental Health Day-You owe it to yourself and you are worth it to take a mental health day. Many times as business owners we are pulled in different directions from our clients, staff, vendors, networking events, continuing education, social media marketing and the like. However, we can’t do anything for anyone else until our own cup is full. So stop pouring out to others without refueling and learn that it is ok to say NO to everyone once in a while.
Have an Outlet-Do something that is non-wedding and/or event planning related. Think about what you like to do as a hobby and reintroduce yourself to that or try something new that you’ve always wanted to do. Make a plan, be determined, and set a short term goal as to how often you want to participate in this activity; be it once a week or once a month for example. It could be an activity you do by yourself or with a friend. Some suggested activities that curb stress are exercising, eating a balance diet, mediation, walking, etc. Whatever you choose, make a plan and stick to it.
Develop a Support System –Built a good team for your wedding/event business. A team that can operate and run the wedding/event exactly as you would, even in the event of your absence. Add family and friends that you can lean upon and be totally yourself without any reservations. There are some that can support you mentally, emotionally, and sometimes even in a financial bind. Everyone needs at least one person that they can talk to about anything, without judgement. One that can be a listening ear or sounding board, while telling you the truth about what you may be going through. If all else fails, then there is nothing wrong with seeking professional help. It doesn’t mean you need psychotherapy for the rest of your life, but you need to have some form of an outlet to express how you may be really feeling inside.
Every Client is Not Your Client-I can’t stress enough this point. This is actually how I’ve been taught when I first started my wedding business. The wedding industry is a $72 billion dollar industry and there are more than enough clients to go around for all of us. We each have a particular set of skills and talents that make us marketable and unique in those areas. Build upon that and know that you do not have to make everyone you meet your client. It is truly OK to say no or refer out to another wedding professional. If you get a gut feeling when meeting with a potential client that accepting them might be a problem for you, refer out. Going against those feelings in the end can prove more than you can bear. So, listen to what your body and instincts are trying to tell you.
Victoria Ten Eyck is a Certified Addictions Counselor (CAC1), Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) Master Addictions Counselor (MAC), and Certified Autism Travel Professional (CATP). She currently works for DC CFSA and in her private practice, A Purposeful Journey, where she provides education, advocacy, supports, and Autism Friendly Family Vacations for those on the Autism spectrum. She is the CEO and owner of Simply Divine Weddings and Events, located in PG County, Maryland.
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April 3, 2019
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